Most of us teenagers go through a lot of ups and downs, from struggles at schools to figuring out our place in society. We are usually too reluctant to communicate our complex problems to our parents. Maybe because the gap caused by the lack of communication, and the difference caused by growing up during vastly different times leave them unable to identify with our too-important travails. Maybe because we subconsciously realise that our parents would deem themselves a failure at knowing the emotional trauma and difficulties we go through everyday.
The main source of reason and support for us are our peers, those who go through the same things as us, and are more aware of the situation as it is. Friends. And we, quite sensibly maybe, turn to them in face of difficulties.
Based on what I’ve been seeing lately, however, this doesn’t seem to be the case. We sometimes, simply don’t care about the people who surround us. Peolple who have lives, feelings and difficulties of their own.
Are we really so afraid of reaching out to another human being, someone we see everyday, with whom we sit for six-seven hours a day? Are we so caught up in our transient, selfish, mundane actions to look up to something far more important than fame? To leave the materialism and our power struggles, to actually do something good for someone? Yes, we hear someone speak about topics like suicides, bullying, depression and/or self harm everyday, but is this topic so far removed from reality, that its something to be spoken about, and not actually dealt with?
School is somewhere you go to learn, to educate and discover yourself, not someplace to be abandoned and have your trust broken and relationships soured. It takes one person to make a difference to another, a small action of generousness to make them feel worthy. To help them climb out of the infinite abyss of self shame. And yes, you can make that difference.
So when you speak to someone much different from you, try not to just get what you want, but instead, take a moment out of your time, and DO some good. People seek some companionship and some acceptance for who they are. Accept them. Its the kindest thing you can do for them.
P.S. – Thanks for the help, Anisha.